Comments on: Resolving Conflict with Your Teen http://www.mikepottersblog.com/2008/08/resolving-conflict-with-your-teen/ On life, learning, love, and laughter. Thu, 09 Sep 2010 20:32:14 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Anonymous http://www.mikepottersblog.com/2008/08/resolving-conflict-with-your-teen/comment-page-1/#comment-64 Anonymous Mon, 10 Nov 2008 18:16:00 +0000 http://www.mikepottersblog.com/?p=12#comment-64 Well, from personal experience, since I am a teenager. I find it allot easier to understand and resolve conflicts with your parents no matter what the conflict is, if you both have mutual respect and understanding for one another. You must both enter the argument unemotionally or nothing is going to ever be resolved. "Be still and know that I am God". Trust in the Lord that no matter what happens He is in control and it is a part of His wondrous plan for both of your lives. Therefore, you need not to be hasty or rash in what you are trying to make them understand. This often eliminates allot of the tension in the conversation. You need to talk to them like they are mature adults and can rationally respond to conversations with thought rather than hot emotion. Maybe the next time the teenager disrespects you or breaks a rule, instead of using discipline right away, take them out to coffee at Starbucks just the two of you, and start off a rational conversation about what they did, without crying or yelling on both sides. Make them just understand that as a parent you are called and required to be a peace maker in the home. Well, from personal experience, since I am a teenager. I find it allot easier to understand and resolve conflicts with your parents no matter what the conflict is, if you both have mutual respect and understanding for one another. You must both enter the argument unemotionally or nothing is going to ever be resolved. “Be still and know that I am God”. Trust in the Lord that no matter what happens He is in control and it is a part of His wondrous plan for both of your lives. Therefore, you need not to be hasty or rash in what you are trying to make them understand. This often eliminates allot of the tension in the conversation. You need to talk to them like they are mature adults and can rationally respond to conversations with thought rather than hot emotion. Maybe the next time the teenager disrespects you or breaks a rule, instead of using discipline right away, take them out to coffee at Starbucks just the two of you, and start off a rational conversation about what they did, without crying or yelling on both sides. Make them just understand that as a parent you are called and required to be a peace maker in the home.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.mikepottersblog.com/2008/08/resolving-conflict-with-your-teen/comment-page-1/#comment-47 Anonymous Fri, 29 Aug 2008 00:14:00 +0000 http://www.mikepottersblog.com/?p=12#comment-47 Dear Anonymous:<br/><br/>Haha. Wouldn't it be great too if kids would understand that their actions have consequences? That the more they disrespect their parents by breaking their rules, the more volatile and unstable the home will get? And wouldn't it be great if kids understood that when parents have to deal with consistent disrespect and disobedience from them that it MUST be addressed. It's just unfortunate that kids so often think that discipline is the same thing as judgement. Oh well, one day they'll understand the difference. And by the way...kids often lose their tempers too...even when they're parents don't. Dear Anonymous:

Haha. Wouldn’t it be great too if kids would understand that their actions have consequences? That the more they disrespect their parents by breaking their rules, the more volatile and unstable the home will get? And wouldn’t it be great if kids understood that when parents have to deal with consistent disrespect and disobedience from them that it MUST be addressed. It’s just unfortunate that kids so often think that discipline is the same thing as judgement. Oh well, one day they’ll understand the difference. And by the way…kids often lose their tempers too…even when they’re parents don’t.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.mikepottersblog.com/2008/08/resolving-conflict-with-your-teen/comment-page-1/#comment-46 Anonymous Thu, 28 Aug 2008 23:30:00 +0000 http://www.mikepottersblog.com/?p=12#comment-46 Haha this is so true. It is so <b>much easier</b> to reach out to your kids when you also understand where they are coming from and remain "chill" without passing judgement or losing tempers Haha this is so true. It is so much easier to reach out to your kids when you also understand where they are coming from and remain “chill” without passing judgement or losing tempers

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